Ok Today is obviously Valentines Day, and by the title you guys can see that I am against this holiday, with a PASSION.
From since I was a child, I can remember myself Hating...I MEAN HATING valentines day. Since I am a psych major, I will evaluate myself for you guys.
I suppose as a child I was deprived of that male figure and craved that relationship with a male, so therefore I had my many crushes which were relentlessly embrassing. Because they were not that cute, I just craved that attachment to some male figure, and if any one of the male species even touched me, I developed an instant crush. Pathetic huh. Since I was "relentlessly" Put down by all of these men, and I have been hurt by many men, including my past love, I have developed a... complex I guess I could say. And this complex has lead me to hate every thing about love. ^.^
Yes that is my problem I hate love because of all the shit men have put me through within my life. ANd many of you are thinking, girl you are young, yea I am... But I guarantee you I have gone through much more than half of you have within my 20 years of life. First of all lets not even go into pain. My pain tolerance is in the roof, I have had random pain all my life, the reason I shall not get into now. Spontaneous, this is what my life goes by. Spontaneous love, Spontaneous pain, etc. etc. Ugh Life... pathetic, but without these spontaneous shit, it wouldn't be an interesting life now wouldn't it.
Well why my title, Anti-Valentine's Day...DO not get my wrong, Love is love and if you are in love then more power to you. As you can see from my post about my ex, I was IN LOVE, and when I was in that state it was the most beautiful thing in my life at the time. ANd I would die for that feeling again, it was better than my thoughts of heaven. It was my heaven, being in his arms at night was my heaven, him kissing me was my heaven, him on top of me was heaven for me. But it all came crashing down, and I am in purgatory, a lesson learned. But if anyone feels like they are in love, then hey..Im happy for you. And I hope you have that feeling for the rest of your life. It's the greatest feeling in the world.
This is not Anti Valentines Day, to be bashing love completely, even though I have had my problems with it. This is just to bash the day itself, the day that marketing geniuses make their cash load off of some poor guy that just wants to get laid. So he buys his girlfriend of one month a box of chocolates and some roses and then boom there he goes he's got a whole night to prove how good he is in bed. ^.^ This day is just a marketing ploy, just to get people's money. Have we forgot the real reason of valentines day. Have we forgotten the history behind this bloody day?
A little history lesson
This day was originally a pagan holiday that was renamed by two christian martyrs named Valentine, hence Saint Valentines day.
"Numerous early Christian martyrs were named Valentine. Until 1969, the Catholic Church formally recognized eleven Valentine's Days.The Valentines honored on February 14 are Valentine of Rome (Valentinus presb. m. Romae) and Valentine of Terni (Valentinus ep. Interamnensis m. Romae). Valentine of Rome was a priest in Rome who suffered martyrdom about AD 269 and was buried on the Via Flaminia. His relics are at the Church of Saint Praxed in Rome. and at Whitefriar Street Carmelite Church in Dublin, Ireland.
Valentine of Terni became bishop of Interamna (modern Terni) about AD 197 and is said to have been killed during the persecution of Emperor Aurelian. He is also buried on the Via Flaminia, but in a different location than Valentine of Rome. His relics are at the Basilica of Saint Valentine in Terni (Basilica di San Valentino).
The Catholic Encyclopedia also speaks of a third saint named Valentine who was mentioned in early martyrologies under date of February 14. He was martyred in Africa with a number of companions, but nothing more is known about him.
No romantic elements are present in the original early medieval biographies of either of these martyrs. By the time a Saint Valentine became linked to romance in the fourteenth century, distinctions between Valentine of Rome and Valentine of Terni were utterly lost."- Wikipedia
Martyrs yet we treat this holiday like one big greeting card. It's so much more than that, but we're blinded by the ambitions of the greeting card companies and the florists. Oh buy 2 dozen roses she is sure to bed you tonight. No...
If a guy were to...actually think about what he wanted to give me...or do for me, if he actually put some thought into it without rushing to the store to get a bunch of rose, then yes maybe I might fuck him... maybe. We forget, valentines day or the day of love is everyday. Why can we not profess our love everyday of the year, why do we have to do it on this one day? There is so much more to love than a hallmark greeting card, there is passion there is everything you thought you had but when you look into his eyes you realize how empty your life really was.
Love should be everyday... We should shout our love for someone every day of the goddamn year, not just this one. Not because the television tells us so.
So yes Anti-Valentines Day, its a movement, join if you want to lol. I welcome any and everyone. lolol. But seriously...tell the one you love, that you love them everyday not just this damn bloody day.